A little about me
My name is John Grant.
I live in the UK with my faithful Airedale Terrier, Rita.
It was March 2014 when I was introduced to my first teacher.
I had no idea what mindfulness or spirituality were – I only knew that traditional religion held no interest for me, appearing to be far more about power and control than how we treat one another.
Looking back now I see that spirit found me – I was not even searching.
Like many I have met since, once I saw, I could not unsee – I had no choice other than to follow – the dye was cast.
I could never understand why we could be capable of building a telescope, shooting it into space so that we might see back to the beginning of time, but at the same time, were incapable of getting on with our fellow human beings.
Since 2014 I have learned about myself – what makes me tick and why I see the world and experience life as I do.
As my understanding grows so does my compassion for myself – I have learned to be able to hold myself with tenderness and to love and accept myself exactly as I am.
From this understanding arose the desire to be of service, to help alleviate suffering in any way I can and to share what I have learned with as many as possible.
Alleviating Suffering; Promoting Kindness and Compassion
Cutting to the chase, there is an overwhelming amount of suffering in the world at present.
For me, the reason is quite simple – what is happening outside is a mere reflection of what is happening on the inside – or to put it another way, can you imagine how the world would be if everyone was happy and fulfilled?
Consequently, if we are going survive, then we need identify and understand the causes of our suffering – then and only then can healing begin.
As our understanding deepens so quite naturally our capacity for kindness and compassion increases.
As this process unfolds, you may discover a love yourself – even with all of your so-called shortcoming’s faults and deficiencies.
You will spend less time wishing you and everything else was different from how it is which in turn allows the space to appreciate yourself and the life which has been gifted to you exactly as it is.
As you develop the ability to be kinder to yourself, you may also find that you treat others also with more understanding, kindness and compassion.
What is self-enquiry?
Self-enquiry was originally taught by the Indian saint, Ramana Maharshi.
The aim is to discover who you are beyond your name, your roles, your personality or your history.
At Tangerine Sky we use enquiry as a means to take a deep and profound look at the ways in which we view ourselves, others and the world and to investigate deeply whether there is any truth in the stories we tell ourselves about how we, they and the rest of the world are and how it all should be.
We question every assumption, every judgement, every aspect of life to discover the truth – to discover what is deeper and more precious than any idea you may have about yourself.
The deeper we delve, the more we understand, the more we understand, the more our compassion and kindness deepen.
And the more our understanding, kindness and compassion deepen, the less we suffer.
Life is a miracle, a gift and a mystery.
This is not a rehearsal there is no time to waste.
I hope you may be inspired to join me so we can travel this path together
can you imagine how the world might be if everyone was happy and fulfilled?
through courses, The Soul Cafe retreats and individual coaching, we aim to alleviate suffering and to develop the deepest understanding of and compassion and kindness for ourselves, for those in our lives and indeed for life itself.
There is no longer the question of “What’s in it for me?” but simply, “How can I help?”
And so, this is my question to you – How can I Help?
I would be privileged if you would allow me that opportunity.
About my work
“An unexamined life is not worth living.” Socrates
At Tangerine Sky, I combine the following methods and more, so you can understand why you see things – both externally and internally - the way that you do, to see that ultimately there is no truth in these stories. Let us examine our lives together and in doing so, find a life which is truly worth living.
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“Know Thyself”
Temple of Apollo at Delphi
Self-inquiry was first proposed as a method of discovering our true nature by the Indian saint Sri Ramana Maharshi. His method advised that one start by asking the very simple question “Who am I?”. This question could be further broken down into the following investigations: “Am I my mind/thoughts?”, “Am I my physical body?” and “Am I my emotions?”
Given that your thoughts, mind, and body are in constant change (you will not finish even reading this page with the same thoughts, body or emotions that you started), how can you truly be any of these things? In effect, Ramana suggested using the mind to defeat the mind by examining the assumptions that the mind, meditating on each one, seeing through each one. Having eliminated these options, if I am not my body, mind or emotions, what is left that does not change?
This simple but powerful method leads one deeper into the voyage of self-discovery. The very essence of self-inquiry is to see what is false and then to discover what remains – what is untouched and unchanged, what is already free.
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“All the world’s a stage and all the men and women merely players.”
William Shakespeare
The Enneagram is over 2600 years old and having been hidden for centuries, is now a widespread method as the basis of self-inquiry. The Enneagram divides people into nine main character fixations and describes in remarkable detail and depth how each character will see and experience the world and themselves.
The key question that arises from learning and understanding which number you have assumed as your role is: if your view of the world can be described in such detail by someone who has never met you, if your actions can be predicted once my character is known, then where is free will?
In learning about oneself in this manner, one can begin to appreciate that most of what one takes oneself to be is simply a role - one that each of us has unwittingly and subconsciously assumed.
It may be how we show up in the world, but it is not the essence of who we are.
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The way that we see, react to, and experience the present is a result of everything that happened to us from the time we were conceived. Modern medical science, and in particular, psychology is discovering more and more that who we are now will be very heavily influenced by what happened to us in the past and in particular what happened when we were infants.
Childhood trauma (which need not entail any form of what we would term “abuse” – it can simply be being present to the breakdown of parents’ relationship or having parents who had to go out to work and were therefore not present to see to an infant’s emotional needs) has the most impact. Unless brought to light, examined and thereby healed, this trauma will continue to affect how we experience the world for the rest of our lives.
To understand why we are who we are, why we play the role that we show up as every day, is hugely beneficial in enabling us to see the falseness of that role. To see that it is just a role no different from the actors on a stage can be the gateway to liberation.
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Hypnotherapeutic trance, reiki, other energy healing work as seen necessary moment to moment to help you tend to the wounds of your past.
My qualifications
Clinical hypnotherapist
In 2023, after an intensive 2-year training, I was certified as Advanced Clinical Hypnotherapist and Leela Facilitator with the Leela School, Amsterdam. The Leela School teaches a mix of western therapeutic methods and eastern non-dual self-inquiry, withg the support of the Enneagram.
REIki, Level 3
Reiki is a form of energy hands-on healing, through which a universal energy is transferred through the palms of the practitioner to the patient in order to encourage emotional or physical healing.
Life Coach
5+ years of experience as a life coach, helping people reframe their problems, re-examine their lives and find fulfilment and purpose here and now.
Other relevant stuff
I hold an LLB Law and have been a successful law business owner for 30 years. I’m a father of 2 and an ordinary bloke with a gift for seeing miracles everywhere, every day.